UPDATE: I HAVE CHANGED MY MIND ABOUT THE LIVE VIDEOS.  IT IS MY BELIEF THAT THOSE VIDEOS ARE CAUSING OUR COMMUNITY TO CRUMBLE.  THE EGOS OF MANY THAT DO IT ARE THREW THE ROOF.  SOME VERY REAL ADVOCATES HAVE TURNED INTO VERY SCARED, HALF STEPPING PEOPLE THAT ONLY CARE WHAT OTHERS THINK.  

 

I’m not just talking about Carol and Carla either.  I’m talking about all the people that really seem to enjoy making fun of just about anyone that goes live on Facebook.  What do they say?  You guys know but for those that don’t here are a few of their favorites.

They only care about getting famous

LMAO, really?  You know that how?  Famous?  By posting videos about their struggles with addiction?  Oh ok!

That person isn’t qualified to be giving advice

Um, first of all, they are telling THEIR stories, and actually, they are the most qualified person to do so.  Not to mention that these people have lived through the hell and made it out.  I don’t know about you but I give more weight to experience than I do to classroom knowledge any day.

They aren’t following the Big Book ( rules, traditions or whatever )

Here is the deal with this one and this one has been a big topic recently.  These pages and groups on Facebook aren’t meetings.  Did you catch that ladies?  oh and boys?  PAGES AND GROUPS ARE NOT MEETINGS.  You won’t catch any of the wonderful people that I know going into actual meetings and telling people attending that they must feel, believe or act a certain way in order to recover. ( you might see a gang banging mom say you need supplements but that is a different story for a different day and we don’t endorse her anyway)  In case someone missed it, let’s say that again.  PAGES AND GROUPS ARE NOT MEETINGS.  They are not held to the same rules.  They are managed by individuals who are telling their stories of success and that is all.  If a person does not like the message of a certain page…there are about 100k more, period.

They are all marketers and only do it for the money

First off, any time you hear someone say “they all” or “everyone of” chalk it up to bullshit.  It’s dumb.  Since when is everybody anything?  How about this, what if they are “marketers?”  Let me explain to some of you sweet folks what the people I love do.  THEY HELP PEOPLE!!  EVERY SINGLE PERSON THAT ASKS FOR HELP IS PAID ATTENTION TO AND TO THE BEST OF THEIR ABILITY IS TAKEN CARE OF.  Is every message answered the moment it comes in?  No, everyone does the best they can.  Again, its a Facebook page and we don’t claim to be open 24 hours or advertise 10 min wait times.  When someone asks for help we also don’t comment under their comment and say HEY CAROL WE GOT THIS ONE, NO NEED TO SCARE THEM OFF ((YES SHE REALLY DID THAT even after we had been in touch.  We also had a scholarship that could have been used for the young man but she would rather say someone did something wrong.  The reality is she is the one that was not only stalking again but put a boy’s life in danger and turned the scholarship down because she needs to be able to say the page owner did something wrong.  The scholarship to Mississippi didn’t fit into that story though did it.

Marketers in the recovery world have been given a bad name by a few people.  We are addicts guys, we deal with enough stigma.  Since when do we allow a few bad eggs to ruin the bunch?  If that is the case then you all suck.

Also, if someone posts their private phone number we delete it after noting the number.  The worst kind of marketers are the ones that troll pages and look for people.  ( sound familiar carol )

They only do it to feed their ego

ARE YOU KIDDING ME, OK DON’T FOLLOW, WTF

What makes these people think that they are so much wiser and more equipped to help someone?  Again, HELP SOMEONE, because that is what we are trying and doing.  Do they go to churches and follow the guy in the food bank around and post on Facebook if he doesn’t turn the cans all facing front?  If you know how to do it better then, by all means, open your own page.  If you spent a quarter of as much time helping people as you worrying about what we do you might actually learn just what running a page that has traffic is like.  You might realize that in order for us to get anywhere that we need to work together.  If you hate someone don’t talk to them, make a funny meme that only you understand and post till your heart is content.  Don’t troll around Facebook pretending that you know better than someone else.  You don’t.  The truth is you are very unhappy, and I really hope that one day you find peace.  There is no way that your sponsor and the people at your meetings know that crap that you do.  It’s a waste of time and makes you look silly.  I know, I use to be just like you.  I was you, and its not fun.