DON’T Waste energy trying analyzing your loved one, thinking you played a role. If you want to know why here it is…it’s a disease.
DON’T Ever lose hope that they will heal from this addiction.
DON’T take your loved one’s drug abuse and addiction personally
DO Face The Facts
DO GO to Nar-Anon or a Family Support Group
DO Allow them to stumble
DO Seek help from people who have been here before, Social Media support groups as well as Naranon and Alanon
DO Let them face any consequences their addiction has or will cause, even jail, losing their job, getting evicted, electric turned off.
STOP Giving them money
STOP Bailing them out of jail.
STOP Trying to control them
STOP Trying to fix them
STOP Blaming yourself, it’s not your fault. It’s a disease.
STOP Trying to find their “rock bottom.”
STOP Believing the lies.
STOP allowing them to manipulate you.
STOP Telling them if they loved you they wouldn’t use drugs.
BEGIN: Conversation with your loved one. If they ask for money, give them a list of treatment options, churches that help with bills, the welfare information. Having tho face where the addiction has taken them could save their lives.
BEGIN: Looking into treatment options so when they are ready for help, you are ready as well. See what treatment looks like for you. What if anything will you be needed for? Funds, Rides?
HELP is what you give someone who cannot do for themselves.
You did not cause this; you cannot fix it, and you will never control it.