If you just found out that someone in your life is in active addiction, here are the rules.  NO sugar coating just laid out so you can see.  If you can follow these standards the person with the disease of addiction has a better chance of finding recovery and you won’t be enabling their disease.
DON’T Confront the addict especially if they are still using.
DON’T Waste energy trying analyzing your loved one, thinking you played a role.  If you want to know why here it is…it’s a disease.
DON’T Ever lose hope that they will heal from this addiction.
DON’T take your loved one’s drug abuse and addiction personally
DO Take care of yourself physically, mentally and spiritually.
DO Trust your intuition.
DO  Face The Facts
DO  GO to Nar-Anon or a Family Support Group
DO Allow them to stumble
DO Tell your loved one that you love them.  Tell them that you hate the drugs, You hate what those drugs have done to your loved one.
DO Educate yourself on their drug of choice.
DO Seek help from people who have been here before, Social Media support groups as well as Naranon and Alanon

DO Let them face any consequences their addiction has or will cause, even jail,  losing their job,  getting evicted, electric turned off.

STOP Lying for them.
STOP Enabling
STOP Giving them money
STOP  BEING ASHAMED, IT’S A DISEASE. 

STOP Bailing them out of jail.

STOP Trying to control them
STOP Trying to fix them
STOP Blaming yourself, it’s not your fault.  It’s a disease.
STOP Trying to find their “rock bottom.”
STOP Believing the lies.
STOP allowing them to manipulate you.
STOP Telling them if they loved you they wouldn’t use drugs.

BEGIN: Conversation with your loved one. If they ask for money, give them a list of treatment options, churches that help with bills, the welfare information.  Having tho face where the addiction has taken them could save their lives.

BEGIN: Looking into treatment options so when they are ready for help, you are ready as well.  See what treatment looks like for you.  What if anything will you be needed for? Funds, Rides?

Things to remember: People DO recover from this disease.
People DO recover from this disease.
HELP is what you give someone who cannot do for themselves.
ENABLING is providing for someone who can take care of themselves.
You did not cause this; you cannot fix it, and you will never control it.

2 comments on “Addiction In The Family Do’s & Dont’s”

  1. HI, I WAS WONDERING IF SOUND HEALING IS EVER USED IN THE HEALING PROCESS…CHECK OUT THIS GUY NAMED STEVE HALPERN, HE’S BEEN USING MUSIC TO ASSIST IN HEALING FOR ABOUT 30 YEARS AND SOME HOSPITALS USE HIS MUSIC TO ASSIST WITH HEALING…BLESSINGS

  2. I recommend anyone dealing with an addiction needs to be evaluated for a metabolic disorder and nutritional deficiencies. A metabolic disorder is when the body has genetic variants that affect how the body processes nutrients that are ingested – both macronutrients, the big vitamins many of us are familar with and also the micronutrients – trace minerals that are cofactors needed for macronutrients to be utilized within the body.

    The MTHFR genetic variant is spoke about often; however, there are many other genes involved in the biological pathways for methylation – the key of how the body functions.

    Additionally, genetic variants can affect how fast or how slow things like dopamine are chewed up. This can lead to addictions, Parkinson’s, Alzheimer’s and more. Genetic variants in the liver can affect how chemicals, medications, metals and other toxins are handled in the body. If the liver can’t process these out of the body, then they float around and land on receptors or get stored away in fat cells. The brain is primarily fat!

    Look up Dr. Ben Lynch, MTHFR, search any condition with the term vitamin or nutrient deficiencies. What you find will help you help your loved one who has an addiction.

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